How to create a routine that works

Okay, so let me tell you about how I finally managed to build a routine that stuck. For years, I was all over the place. I'd start strong with ambitious plans, wake up at 5 am for a week, then crash and burn. Everything felt like a chore. Then I realized my problem: I was trying to become a super-human overnight. The turning point came when I decided to focus on one tiny habit.

Just one. I chose making my bed every morning. It sounds silly, but it was achievable. I told myself, “Just make the bed. That’s it.” And I did, every single day. Slowly, I started adding more small things. I’d make my bed, then drink a glass of water. Then, I’d make my bed, drink water, and do five minutes of stretching. The key was to build on the previous habit.

Don't try to overhaul your entire life at once. Think about one area you want to improve, like your morning, your evening, or your work day. What's one small change you can make? Write it down. Literally write down your desired routine. Don't just think about it, put it on paper. This makes it real and helps you visualize it. Be specific. Instead of "exercise more," write "walk for 30 minutes after dinner." Next, figure out when and where you'll do each step.

This is crucial. If you want to meditate in the morning, decide exactly where you'll sit and what time. Prepare the space the night before to eliminate any friction. Don't be afraid to adjust. Your initial routine might not be perfect. Maybe the timing is off, or maybe you need to make it even smaller. It's okay to experiment and tweak things until they work for you.

Track your progress. Use a calendar, a habit tracker app, or just a notebook. Seeing your consistency build up is incredibly motivating. Don't beat yourself up if you miss a day. Just get back on track the next day. Consistency, not perfection, is the goal. Remember, routines are meant to serve you, not control you. They should make your life easier and less stressful, not more.

Be kind to yourself, be patient, and celebrate your small wins. Over time, those small wins will add up to big changes. It took me a while, but now I have a morning routine that sets me up for success every day, and an evening routine that helps me wind down and relax. You can do it too. Just start small and build from there.

That's the secret, or at least it was for me. Good luck! Comments: SarahM I would recommend starting with the hardest task first in your routine. Getting it out of the way early boosts motivation for the rest of the day!
JohnDoe I found that prepping things the night before made a huge difference. Lay out your clothes, pack your lunch, etc.

It eliminates decision fatigue in the morning!
EmilyB Don't forget to build in rewards! Maybe a nice cup of coffee after you finish your workout, or some time to read before bed. Rewards make routines more enjoyable!
DavidL I would make the routine visual so you see it regularly, like a whiteboard next to your bed